Thursday, April 22, 2021

Spiking cases of Revenge Porn in India- An alarm!

Spiking cases of Revenge Porn in India- An alarm!

Riddhi still gets goosebumps when she recalls the events that happened 7 years ago. She calls her traumatized mind “a grave, where all of her dreams died”. “It was the start of the hell” when she got to know that she was getting posted everywhere, she said. Her father, who was a school teacher, got to see her videos on his student’s cell phone. It was even more embarrassing for her when he told her mum and other family members about the same. For an Indian girl of a conservative family, it was a death bed she was sleeping on. Being beaten, locked, she could not stop crying for days. Her cell phone was seized and was not allowed to meet any of her friends.

Her relatives, neighbors and most of the people around her have seen the videosThe fact that everyone knows how I look without clothes, how I respond and so, is so very embarrassing. Initially, some people could not believe it was her video, but they looked and they were! So many videos of her were available online with millions of views, downloads, and shares. In an orthodox society, she gradually became the talk of the town. Her personal life was not personal anymore, and most of all, she thought it could not be personal ever again. People justifying her body, counting her moles, discussing her lips, abusing her like authority, become the everyday norm. 

Inside, she knew it would never go away! She tried to kill herself, harmed herself multiple times but this could not turn down her video from the internet. Isolating herself was the only option if she continued living. Losing a job, receiving threats for her and her family was not a shocking event at all.

She tried every possible escape, changed her appearance, changed her name, changed her city, but how could she change her fear, the fear to be exposed, the fear of being identified, and the fear of being ashamed about herself. After a couple of years, she decided to go public, to fight with her culprit legally. 

I used to be ashamed about it, but now when I got my senses, I’m a bit more empowered,” said Riddhi. “I refuse to be silent; I was tired of the assault, the threats. People think it’s OK to say: ‘You shouldn’t have taken the pictures.’ Would you tell a rape victim she shouldn’t have worn a short skirt?

“I’m in a relationship now and if my partner and I are apart and I want to send him a picture, I’ll do it. Telling women not to take a photo isn’t the answer,” she says. “Some women are coerced into it. Others have their pictures taken when they’re asleep or in the shower, without their knowledge. You can end up on deep fake stuff that everyone believes is real. You just don't need to exist to become a victim.” She is still fighting for herself and for women like her.

She continued fighting for 4 years, many times she decided to give up but then the fight of her existence kept on bothering her. 

A game-changing conviction that could shake up a controversial industry- A guilty verdict of a man who happens to be her ex-boyfriend. After 6 years of struggle, ups and downs he got arrested. The police found out that he had posted thousands of nude and sexually exclusive photos of many of his ex-lovers on his website. He said, he enjoys it when nude pictures and videos are splashed across the website, women who ditched him were humiliated miserably. He thought he just gave them a lesson, which was pretty common after the breakup.

Luckily he was taken down in custody following his location. He accepted that the whole idea was to take revenge on ladies who ditched him and moved onThe conviction is a good victory for a very big list of victims who had been stalked but were unable to do anything. Well, her ex was charged and received a six-month suspended sentence. Since this abuse is not categorized as a sex crime, he could not pay the price that he should! India doesn't have any specific laws to deal with revenge porn but various acts like the Indian Penal Code and Information Technology Act have given leverage to the victims who claim justice.

There are thousands of cases like Riddhi, some break down and die, others get used to humiliation, while some fight back.


Hey, lovely Readers, India might take many years for legislation of such laws, but till that humanity can take a stand, we can take a strong stand. The norms might not be able to help the victims but we can! We don't even need to fight her battle, we can simply help by not sharing, not letting anyone share, deleting if we can, and not threatening the victim. Guys, is that very tough? I guess no! Promise me, dear readers, next time you see such pictures or videos, you won't share or discuss at least.


35 comments:

  1. Amazing article with actual sense of what happens and how it should be dealt with

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  2. Very nice ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘

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  3. Amazing article..
    It's shows that people do such worst things to satisfy their ego but we have to learn that girls are not our property....
    And I appreciate the writer which wrote a wonderful article which empowering the girls and give the idea not to give up in such situations and fight against such peoples....

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  4. I wish all the girls are as brave as she was in the end and teach these #@%#* a lesson they never forget.

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  5. Appreciable content
    Good going keep it up

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  6. Its amazing how you described it...keep it up...good going๐Ÿ‘

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  7. This is the bitter truth. The judiciary should take some real steps regarding this . however it was a good article. Felt good by reading your article.
    Keep working hard like this.
    Thank you

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  8. Such man/boy is sick minded....such kind of individual have no right to survive๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก
    Still there are many more such cases lying hidden

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  9. you're content is amazing you're content expert ����

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  10. something has to be done about the weaponizing of social media.

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  11. We have to start respecting ourselves by respecting our women and girls, not by locking them, coercing, or blackmailing them but by accepting their choices in their lives and supporting them.
    A thought provoking post, Sakshi. xx

    The main issue is not with whom she's sleeping or having photos or how many times people watched her video, but the mindset of the viewers to judge her just for that.

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    1. Exactly Sara. Sometimes we help such people unknowingly. We need to be extra careful when something like this comes across.

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  12. OMG how angry I get over stories like this ... it's bad enough in the U.S., but in India? Fatal! So happy she finally overcame and the creep was finally arrested.

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  13. เคฌเคนुเคค เค…เคš्เค›ा เคฒเค—ा เคชเฅ เค•े।
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    เคฌเคนुเคค เคงเคจ्เคฏเคตाเคฆ เค†เคชเค•ो เค‡เคคเคจे เคฎเคนเคค्เคตเคชूเคฐ्เคฃ เคตिเคทเคฏ เคชเคฐ เค‡เคคเคจी เค—เคฎ्เคญीเคฐเคคा เคธे เคช्เคฐเค•ाเคถ เคกाเคฒเคจे เค•े เคฒिเค��������

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    1. A great article, indeed.
      People need to understand how would that girl have endured all that!
      And, it's a great initiative taken by you. Keep up the good work. ��

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    2. The fact that males are losing the war in the battle of gender is making men become chauvinistic and hollow at the same time. nice thoughtful article.... You have breathed life into it. Proud of you ��

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    3. Such a powerful description it is!
      I was lost during the read.

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    4. Thank you very much for your views!

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  15. Wow... this is a courageous telling. I applaud ����you sharing this piece.

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  16. Absolutely tragic. The sad thing is, this is far from uncommon. I work in the anti-trafficking industry and many images/videos circulating popular sites are not just revenge, but outright rape. And there is virtually no way to distinguish it from what is considered legal.

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  17. เค‡เคธे เคชเคข़เคจे เค•े เคฌाเคฆ เคชเคคा เคšเคฒा เค•ी เคฒेเค–เค• เคฎเคคเคฒเคฌ เค•ी เค†เคช เค…เคชเคจी เค†เคธ เคชाเคธ เคนो เคฐเคนी เค˜เคŸเคจाเค“ं เค•ो เคœोเคก़เคคे เคนुเค เคฌเคนुเคค เคนी เค…เคš्เค›ा เค–ोเคœ เค•เคฐเค•े เคเค• เคชेเคœ เคชเคฐ เค…เคชเคจी เคฌाเคคो เค•ो เคฐเค–े เคนो เค‡เคธเคฒिเค เคฏे เคชเคข़เคจे เค•े เคฌाเคฆ เคฌเคนुเคค เค•ुเค› เคธोเคšเคจे เคฎें เคฎเคœเคฌूเคฐ เค•िเคฏा ...เคจिเคถเคฌ्เคฆ เคนूं เคฎैं ...เคชเคฐ เคธिเคฐ्เคซ เคเค• เคฌाเคค เค•เคนूंเค—ा เค•ी เค•ुเค› เคฒोเค— เค—เคฒเคค เค•เคฐเคคे เคนै เคคो เคถाเคฏเคฆ เคตो เคธिเคฐ्เคซ เค…เคชเคจे เคฌाเคฐे เคฎें เคธोเคšเคคे เคนै เคคो เค‰เคจ्เคนें เคเคธी เคฌाเคคों เคธे เค—เคฐ्เคต เคนोเคคी เคนै เคชเคฐ เคœिเคธ เคฆिเคจ เคธाเคฎเคจे เคตाเคฒे เค•े เคฌाเคฐे เคฎें เคเค• เคฌाเคฐ เคธोเคš เคฒे เคคो เคธเคฎाเคœ เคฎें เคฌเคนुเคค เคธुเคงाเคฐ เค† เคœाเคฏेเค—ी ...เค“เคฐ เคฒोเค—ो เค•ा เคนเคฎेเคถा เคธเค•ाเคฐाเคค्เคฎเค• เคธोเคš เคฐเค–เคจे เค•ी เคœเคฐूเคฐเคค เคนै ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

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  18. Your content , flow and the lucid way in which you deliver the strong message has become amazing . It's really brave writeup..very good content

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  19. You are legend mam

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